Dante’s Opinion: Should I forgive and try to reconnect?
I want to reconnect with my cousin, but I’m not sure if it’s the right thing to do.
We grew up together like sisters (our mums were sisters, and dads were brothers). I looked up to her a lot. We grew apart around 18, but got close again when I fell pregnant with my first child at 23 years old. She accepted to be my daughters godmother. We would talk about how when she had a baby our kids could play all the time like our parents did when we were little. She helped me organise my daughters 1st birthday party.
Her and her husband were having trouble falling pregnant (trying for 4 months). At my daughters 1st birthday party I told her I was pregnant with my 2nd child (she knew I was trying for a baby). That was in 2012 and to this day that was the last time I seen her. I had tried to catch up with her many times over 2012 and 2013 but she was always too busy. I was always the one contacting her first.
Then my daughters 2nd birthday came and I didn’t hear from her. She didn’t send a card, a text or call me. Final straw. I was hurt and didn’t know what to say, so I said nothing and deleted her from Facebook. I had my baby boy in 2013 and didn’t hear from her. She told a friend she sent me a text but I didn’t get one. She had a baby girl 2 months ago and I sent her a card and a message on Facebook but I haven’t heard from her.
I miss her and want to reconnect. My husband doesn’t like the idea because he says she’s a selfish, horrible person. I feel lost.
Tough break there. It’s weird that it seems out of nowhere the relationship ended. If it were up to me, I think I would give it up. Clearly your cousin has better things to do. I mean, you’re family so I would imagine that you’d never talk to each other again. But, I can only speak from experience when I say that “I gotta take the hint” and move on. I was close to a cousin of mine. Very close. But, it didn’t work out for similar reasons. I took the hint. The hardest part was letting go. It hurt. You could say it was an emotional detox.
Next one is interesting.
I’m 25 and me and my wife been married since we were 19 and she wants me to sell the truck me and my father built together” there isn’t a bolt or nut we haven’t touched on it, but now my father is passed away and so the truck has a lot centimental value so what should I do?
Unless you are having serious financial problems, you should hold on to that truck. At some point, I guess you have to let it go, but not at this time.